I remember back in high school going to the school auditorium and hearing my principal say “old friends are not school bullies. School bullies are the ones who physically abuse and throw you against a locker, not a silly fight that has you crying one day.”
Now, let me tell you that a fire was lit inside me during this very moment.
What people fail to realize is that a bully is a bully. The worst betrayal comes from the ones you would never expect it from; the ones you love, the ones you share inside jokes with, maybe even secrets.
For someone to deliberately attempt to make another’s life a living hell for no reason is beyond my understanding.
What I do understand, is that bullies come in all shapes, sizes, and stuck up noses.
It is not fair to pin the “pretty girl” as the bully.
It is not fair to pin “the one with a hard life at home” as the bully.
It is not fair to pin “the shy quiet one” as a bully when the only time they ever spoke was in defense of themselves.
If you are a person who has been a bully, and I mean full on jerk to another human being— it’s never too late to change and become a kind one.
And if you are a person who has been bullied, know that the bully has no power over you. It hurts, but take the high road and don’t mind them as much as you can. Yes, it is impossible sometimes when they push you into a locker, shout at you from the top of a staircase, and call your phone on “accident” a year or so after no contact.
It’s important to know that no matter what happens in your life, as long as you get back up you won’t fail. If YOU keep your head up, you won’t fail. If you don’t let childish remarks from others hurt you, you won’t fail.
It is most important to remember that the days when it does inevitably get to you—cry it out. Eat the ice cream. Hug your dog. Teenage years aren’t the Bain of your existence.
Even as you grow older there will be competition and believe it or not grown-ups who act just as childish as the bullies back in high school.
Don’t let these people deter you from loving yourself.
Do whatever makes you happy, read whatever story makes you laugh, eat a big fat piece of chocolate cake because that tends to do the trick—just do whatever you can to distance yourself from their negativity.
It is their negativity, not yours.